You really find out who your friends are in times of troubles. Especially a breakup. The majority of my “friends” are assholes. Many of them don’t realize I am in the process of divorcing them. Their behavior was reprehensible.
I didn’t want to be alone this weekend. I wanted to get out and try to do something so that I didn’t sit home and cry all weekend. I put out a post asking if ANYONE would maybe meet me to go watch football or for dinner Saturday. i have almost 300 friends on Facebook. Not ONE responded. Not ONE!
There were some “What’s wrong?” questions. And here is a smattering of replies I received:
“Sometimes it is just better to be alone.”
“Some people will always be alone and maybe you are just going to have to realize that you’re one of those poeple.”
“You put yourself in a stupid situation and now you say you’re hurt? Really? I’m sorry but you got what you deserved.”
“You can’t develop feelings for someone you met online, even if you did talk on the phone and communicate other ways.”
“Well, hopefully you learned something.”
“At least you hadn’t slept with him yet.”
“You give your heart away too easily.” (I have loved a total of 3 men in my entire life)
Yes, these are just some of the things I was told. I am angry with some of the people in my life for not understanding that my heart is broken. I loved that man.
So part of the problem things hurt so much is that I didn’t just lose a man I loved…I also lost family/friends I loved, too. I can’t abide by people who would treat me so callously. If you have no car for what I am going through, you have no place in my life.